Someone Broke in to My Home Because I’m a Single Mom… What?!

by Leila on April 1, 2012

It takes a lot to rattle me.

I’ve been through so much in my life and rarely feel uneasy for long periods of time… but I haven’t slept well all this week. I don’t feel safe in my home. I don’t feel right going to sleep at night. And I’m feeling pretty pathetic about the whole thing.

My car was broken in to… well, more like someone left it unlocked and someone rummaged through my crap. No big deal really though it shocked me. Can you believe they didn’t take my Harry Potter books on tape nor did they take my CD’s from the 90s?!

Who wouldn’t steal Salt N Peppa… everyone loves to Shoop!!

The car wasn’t the big deal. It was someone getting in to my home when I was gone to watch a movie THE SAME DAY.

My Dad is a retired Cop. I rent my home from him. He is here often. I’ve never been concerned over security my entire life… though I have felt for a long time that I should get a dog or a good alarm system since the kids and I live alone.

But, a huge part of me has always felt like I shouldn’t HAVE to get additional protection to keep the kids and I safe. I’m a strong woman. I know what to do if an intruder comes in to my home and I’m not afraid to do what has to be done. But, I am seen as a target.

Like all people I’ve always thought it could never happen to me… and I thought if it did I would know what to do.

All I want to do is punch something and that doesn’t solve shit nor will it make me feel easy again.

Nothing was taken. Seems they were spooked and took off. Honestly, there isn’t anything of worth in my home except for a bunch of stuff from the 80’s my Dad still needs to get out of here.

But, they still came. They were in here. They tried to take my shit. They intruded on my life…

And that has fucked me up. I can’t sleep. I’m not comfortable in the house I’ve known since I was born.

It makes me feel pathetic. It makes me feel weak… and it makes me really fucking angry.

So, while I am feeling especially negative about all of this the focus from others shifts to the bane of my fucking existence: I’m a single woman… but, if there was a man in my life then…

Fill in the mother fucking blank for every negative situation that happens to me.

Seriously? Is that how society perceives me? That if I wasn’t single magically shitty things would stop happening to me? Bullshit.

If I had a husband this wouldn’t happen to me? If I had a man in my life then I would feel safe? If there was a guy that cared then I could feel protected?

So, in essence this happened to me BECAUSE I am a single woman?

Not only was my home intruded upon but my life was as well.

I’m sick of the intrusion, implications and judgment. I can get a dog, security system and a gun to keep intruders out but I learned a long time ago you can’t keep people from trying to intrude on your life.

All you can do is ninja kick them out the door and lock it behind you.



About Leila DontSpeakWhinese

Leila, aka The Ninja, is the advocate for all things not whining. Parenting is fun when everyone stops b*tching! She is the Mom of a big blended family of five awesome kids. They ninja kick through life together. Oh and she is a total jackass.

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Jamie April 1, 2012 at 7:27 pm

It just sucks period. It could have happened to anyone. I’m sorry your safety has been taken away from you. At the same time, it’s a good time to evaluate what is needed in your home to make it more safe again. You’ll get through it, you always do.


Charla April 2, 2012 at 8:43 am

The.worst.feeling.EVER! It’s happened to me twice now and has taken me quite some time to recover for each episode. Your home is your sanctuary. And when it’s not…it just sucks royally! I feel for ya, sista’. Hang in there…


JR Reed April 2, 2012 at 9:33 am

No. He/they broke into your house because he’s a douche. He probably has a tiny pecker, lives with his mom and sold your shit for meth. If they find him please kick him in his junk and tell him it’s from J.R.
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Trina April 2, 2012 at 4:32 pm

That sucks. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Can only hope that you find something to help you feel less anxious and more comfortable in your house again.
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Jessica April 9, 2012 at 1:19 pm

Honestly, even have a man in the home does not always keep the bastards from coming in. It sucks that people are such creeps anymore.
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Maegan April 11, 2012 at 7:53 pm

I don’t think a man or even a dog sometimes can keep someone from committing a shitty crime. If you had a man, he probably would have been with you, so what good is he then? Ninjas can take care of themselves. But even they get their crap rummaged through from time to time, I’d be scared too!


Julia Roberts August 18, 2013 at 7:53 pm

I so get this! I hate it.

This happened to me when I was single and it sucked to hard. It did get better over time so I didn’t have nightmares and could sleep (I swear that is when I started staying up until 2am) but a little bit of fear always lives in me.

I hope it gets better soon.


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