Parent’s quickly learn that we adapt and become different roles, wear many hats, fill countless shoes and juggle on multiple paths. There is no rule book or guide to show us the exact right way. Parenting is what we make of it and every situation is different so there is no one right answer. We are all things and not enough and each phase is just as confusing as the next.
We become nurturers, wipers of butts, chefs and rule enforcers.
We are the people our children cherish the most and at times they love to appreciate the least.
We are the expectation and exception to the rules.
We are perfect, flawed, accidentally managing it all while being hopelessly lost in a sea of parenting misconceptions.
We find ourselves saying and doing things we swore we wouldn’t. We find ourselves in situations we never expected.
We create different definitions, standards, expectations and judgements but hate being on the receiving end of conflicting point of views.
We pretend there is a mold to being a perfect parent that everyone should magically melt into because having a goal is encouraging. We find ourselves devastated when we don’t mesh as well as we expected and worry that others may notice… and judge.
We try our hardest and hope for the best. Which is our exact expectation for our children… but, it becomes not enough in the Mom-Wars world filled with guilt, stress and gossip.
We hate the games, we play them, we lose them and we win them.
Parenting is a riddle with no answer but we continue to try to.
Why is a Mommy or Daddy like a writing desk? Parenting makes as much sense as a mad tea party, for an unbirthday hosted by insane people who don’t exist… But, everything doesn’t have to make sense. It’s about enjoying the party and accepting that some things have no answers.
Attend the preposterous party of parenting, be the life of the party, don’t try to over think it and just be.
About Leila DontSpeakWhinese
Leila, aka The Ninja, is the advocate for all things not whining. Parenting is fun when everyone stops b*tching! She is the Mom of a big blended family of five awesome kids. They ninja kick through life together. Oh and she is a total jackass.