I believe that life is what you make of it.
I also believe that no one can define how you live your life.
Everything we do is our choice to define. We are often faced with a crapton of unexpected obstacles as well as surprise gifts of awesomenss and we have the freedom to choose what we do with it all.
My single motherhood trio of a family became a large blended family again last year when I chose to create my own happily ever after. Going from being single to merging our families back together again hasn’t been the easiest of tasks (it never is!) but it’s given me an immeasurable appreciation for what I have now.
Next year our oldest is going off to High School, our girls are off to Middle School, and our youngest is no longer a kindermonster. The kids are getting older and the conversations have gone from talking about diapers to periods, from first steps to first crushes, from first teeth to first, um, body hair!
The harsh reality of our babies growing up is this is we start to lose them to their friends and their own lives. They have become their people and want to do their own things. We hope that we have instilled enough in them that they will still come to us and make the right decisions when they are faced with tough crossroads of their own.
Until then… they are stuck with dealing with my insanity as you may have seen on Instagram!
Summer is a time when our schedules are not overrun by homework, school events or extra curricular commitments. It’s a time when we can plan those family activities that we couldn’t during the school year. We can make time for the friends we had a hard time seeing. We can make new memories.
This summer is one I hadn’t had in many years when I was a single Mom… when all my kids (step kids included) are together as a family. I’m choosing to define it as the summer of new adventures and, naturally, making the most of it.
And when these moments start to fade as they grow older and hanging our with their crazy Mom becomes really lame I will simply take a lesson from my youngest and his enthusiasm crossing any bridge he finds. Life is about overcoming obstacles from one adventure to the next… And how you choose to enjoy those bridges…
About Leila DontSpeakWhinese
Leila, aka The Ninja, is the advocate for all things not whining. Parenting is fun when everyone stops b*tching! She is the Mom of a big blended family of five awesome kids. They ninja kick through life together. Oh and she is a total jackass.