Life should never be too busy to appreciate moments with our kids

by Leila on May 23, 2013

Appreciating moments with your kids

When we live in a constant cycle of getting to the next thing, feeling overwhelmed to accomplish the next task or trying to hurry up to do more we often miss some very important moments.

We are within walking distance to our elementary school. Next year my 11 year old is going into middle school, my youngest is in Kindergarten and my step-son is off to High School.

This is the only time the younger kiddos will ever be in school together. Next year I will have to drive my daughter to school which means I won’t be walking my youngest as often. They will all be at different schools next year.

This seems like such a small thing and maybe it’s a nuisance to walk instead of drive. I sometimes think about how I need to carve another hour into my day to get things done. I drive them to school some days and then drive off to check off my ToDo list one by one by running errands, going to events or meeting up with friends for breakfast.

Realistically, so many of that can wait. The last several years have revolved around learning to truly prioritize things. We stress, fuss and prioritize events and tasks that should be on the back burner. We get caught up trying to squeeze what we can in the day that some things get missed.

What I am missing out on those days are more than just walks…

They are some of the last moments my 11 year old daughter wants to hold my hand…

They are the moments where I see my son learn by example by watching his sister look for cars before crossing.

They are the moments where the kids laugh the whole way because they are brilliantly creative and come up with new games along the way…

The moments where we all play “I’m going to stomp on your shadow!” and my son, usually, takes it one step further by saying “I’m going to pretend to pee on your shadow!” or “I’m farting on your shadow!”

They may be the last moments where they laugh like that, in that way since my daughter isn’t “too cool” for her baby brother yet.

They are the last moments where their walks to school involve bickering and resolution … and they always end with hugs and “See you at the bike racks!” …

In a few weeks these moments will be gone. Yes, they will be replaced with new and different special moments but we won’t have many more opportunities for these ones.

They are moments that seem easy to just push to the side so I can do other things, but, these are the moments I should be appreciating, taking in and enjoying.

So, I’m doing just that and I hope you do the same… in your own way.

About Leila DontSpeakWhinese

Leila, aka The Ninja, is the advocate for all things not whining. Parenting is fun when everyone stops b*tching! She is the Mom of a big blended family of four awesome kids. They ninja kick through life together. Oh and she is a total jackass.

Comments

  1. Carolyn West says:

    Now I’m tearing up. My oldest is 13 and is in junior high. I realize every moment that this might be the last time she wants to give me a hug or cuddle next to me on the couch. She is going from little girl to woman right before my eyes and I so desperately want to stop the clock. I am trying to treasure all those little girl moments before they are lost forever.
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  2. Lex says:

    Thanks a lot Leila. You made me cry. My 11 year old will also be off to middle school next year. And she and my 6yo will never again be at the same school. That failed to register until now. LOL. Waaaah!!! my babies! Precious moments, indeed!

  3. Asianmommy says:

    We’re lucky to live close enough to our school to walk, but my older daughter is going to junior high next year, too. Time to move on to bigger & better things!
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