I’m a Bad Mom. So Are You. Who the Crap Cares?!

by Leila on March 31, 2011

Have you ever noticed there are a lot of parents that would rather spend their time talking shit about other parents rather than focusing on their own kids?! Or maybe they focus on their kids a little TOO much? There is a not so fine line between being proud and being really damn obnoxious.

Seriously what is with all this bullshit parenting pressure that we have to tiptoe around topics and exude perfection? Who decided that!? I bet it was someone who doesn’t have kids.

Oh you know the type! Those non-breeders that give you the disapproving look when your kid is losing his/her shit in Target!

Or better yet that new parent who is watching you freak out over your older child doing something you SWORE they would never do and you feel that judgment being passed. They look at their sweet little newborn and think, “That will never happen to me.” well buddy, your time will come too because I said the same damn thing! We all did.

Anywho…

It is a tough job no matter if you work, stay at home, married, single, got five baby Momma’s, have a special needs child or have it all seemingly together. I think everyone could benefit from just accepting that parenting is hard and we all lose our shit. It is okay to not be a perfect parent!

I don’t care if your kid is smarter, in a better class, wears better clothes, is healthier, has a busier schedule, eats better or comes from a “good” family because my kid’s rock anyway. My kid’s will mess up. They are going to make mistakes. They are going to say the wrong thing. They sure as hell will embarrass me. They will fail at things. They are going to do things behind my back. But when it comes down to it I will be there for them no matter what. I will accept them on bad days as well as good. I will help them through those stumbles, falls and breaks and we will all learn from it together. I’ll be the rock, the softie, the hug, the acceptance, the boundaries, the unconditional love as well as the frustrated parent.

My children will never be perfect. I will never be a perfect Mom. Life would be boring if we pretended to be anything other than exactly who we are… and that is a perfectly flawed family full of love, laughter, screw ups and a hint of sarcasm.

Oh and my secret ingredient is wine. So raise your glass ladies and jelly-spoons. Cheers to sucking as a parent!


About Leila DontSpeakWhinese

Leila, aka The Ninja, is the advocate for all things not whining. Parenting is fun when everyone stops b*tching! She is the Mom of a big blended family of four awesome kids. They ninja kick through life together. Oh and she is a total jackass.

Comments

  1. Samantha S says:

    I think we could benefit from more bad parents like you. Parenting isn’t a competition and it sucks how many (mostly) mums treat it as such.

    1. Anonymous says:

      Thanks!! Woo hoo for bad parents who are totally okay with that!

  2. Trista says:

    those non-breeders…. BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

  3. Leighann says:

    Love this!
    We’re all moms doing the same job!
    For the ones that aren’t they have NO IDEA!

    1. Anonymous says:

      I always say those that think they are the best parents are the ones that DO NOT have kids!!! lol

  4. Apol says:

    You’re always writing just the thing I need to read. Thanks for that. I always thought there would be more comraderie in parenthood… turns out, I was wrong.

    1. Anonymous says:

      One would think that it would be this amazing experience that brings together people that are going through the same thing… but no… what it does is creates this insane Mom war where you see the crappy side of parenting. School for sure brings that out!!

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  6. Nikki says:

    I am constantly making mistakes… The thing I’m proud of is that I admit it.  Just the other day I lost my temper with Zoe.  I yelled at her and she pointed it out.   I acknowleged my mistake, told her that I was wrong, apologized,  and we moved on.  I believe it is best that our kids see that we know we “aren’t perfect”.  I always tell Zoe that it’s not the mistake that should get the spotlight, but rather how we handle the aftermath.

    1. Anonymous says:

      I think it is important that kids see adults make mistakes and then they see how we own up to it, process it and move on. No one is perfect and we cannot teach our children anything if we don’t accept that in them and ourselves! 

  7. I always feel bad for those parent’s kids…imagine having to grow up surrounded by that…ugh…
    I just laugh at other parent’s judgements…just last week some mother was watching my baby eat sand in the sandbox while I sat watching too…she finally ran up to her and says, where is this childs mother? who lets their baby eat sand?!
    This mom of four right here does…
    cuz as long as my kids are happy, what a little sandy shit later on?
    or you think I’m the worst mother ever…but I’m cool with that…

    1. Anonymous says:

      Ha! Good for you! I think its all about whatever works for the person! There are things I don’t do that I accept that my friends do… so long as the kids are happy/safe and the parents are happy/safe then its all good. My daughter would have never gobbled up sand but my son is another story. That boy strives to be totally gross!

      Ultimately if the choices I make as a parent make me wonderful in one persons eyes but horrible in another its about how my kids and I feel at the end of the day that counts.. everyone else can eat dirt ;)

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