I’m a Bad Mom. So Are You. Who the Crap Cares?!

by Leila on March 31, 2011

Have you ever noticed there are a lot of parents that would rather spend their time talking shit about other parents rather than focusing on their own kids?! Or maybe they focus on their kids a little TOO much? There is a not so fine line between being proud and being really damn obnoxious.

Seriously what is with all this bullshit parenting pressure that we have to tiptoe around topics and exude perfection? Who decided that!? I bet it was someone who doesn’t have kids.

Oh you know the type! Those non-breeders that give you the disapproving look when your kid is losing his/her shit in Target!

Or better yet that new parent who is watching you freak out over your older child doing something you SWORE they would never do and you feel that judgment being passed. They look at their sweet little newborn and think, “That will never happen to me.” well buddy, your time will come too because I said the same damn thing! We all did.


It is a tough job no matter if you work, stay at home, married, single, got five baby Momma’s, have a special needs child or have it all seemingly together. I think everyone could benefit from just accepting that parenting is hard and we all lose our shit. It is okay to not be a perfect parent!

I don’t care if your kid is smarter, in a better class, wears better clothes, is healthier, has a busier schedule, eats better or comes from a “good” family because my kid’s rock anyway. My kid’s will mess up. They are going to make mistakes. They are going to say the wrong thing. They sure as hell will embarrass me. They will fail at things. They are going to do things behind my back. But when it comes down to it I will be there for them no matter what. I will accept them on bad days as well as good. I will help them through those stumbles, falls and breaks and we will all learn from it together. I’ll be the rock, the softie, the hug, the acceptance, the boundaries, the unconditional love as well as the frustrated parent.

My children will never be perfect. I will never be a perfect Mom. Life would be boring if we pretended to be anything other than exactly who we are… and that is a perfectly flawed family full of love, laughter, screw ups and a hint of sarcasm.

Oh and my secret ingredient is wine. So raise your glass ladies and jelly-spoons. Cheers to sucking as a parent!

About Leila DontSpeakWhinese

Leila, aka The Ninja, is the advocate for all things not whining. Parenting is fun when everyone stops b*tching! She is the Mom of a big blended family of five awesome kids. They ninja kick through life together. Oh and she is a total jackass.